Blowjobs
I highly suggest reading through the Anal section, the first book in my instructional series titled the Art of Anal. Preparing for oral with potential deepthroating is pretty similar to the prepwork required for anal.
My two biggest points are:
Your mouth is dirtier than a public toilet. Its filled with bacteria. It is paramount that you take things slow and play safe.
I dont recommend sticking toys in your mouth. Its a choking hazard.
Now let's begin.
1.) Mental Preparation
Confidence is always the first step to any sexual encounter. This is something I post at the beginning of all my guides. Whether you are attracting a mate, trying something new, or assuring your partner that 'it won't hurt' confidence is the Most Valuable Player.
There are only two ways to gain confidence. The first is to be a good actor. This is definitely not a recommended option and has a huge fail rate. If you do not really understand what you are doing, you or your partner will get hurt. Getting hurt will ruin that experience and will destroy any trust you have formed preparing for this activity. Your partner will most likely not want to participate in this activity again. Ultimately, there was no actual confidence gained but there was a lot to lose. The best way to gain confidence is through knowledge. Knowledge is gained either through trial & error or eduaction (reading this is a step in educating yourself!) Education also reduces the amount of error in your trials, increasing your pleasurable experiences.
2.) Shopping List:
?flavored lube (ask for intercourse safe like wicked, ID, or system jo)
?non lubricated condoms (if you wear condoms when you bump uglys, wear them when he bumps his ugly to your pretty)
?external virbator (to press against the outside of your cheek or on his balls)
?candles (try soy candles so you can use them as massage later!)
?pheromones (this can be found in almost anything at an adult store, oil, lotion, perfume, even bubble bath and shave gel. This is a simple way to get them in the mood)
3.) Setting the Mood
This is a very giving act and I personally tend get bored easily. Setting the mood is a great way to prevent boredom. Turn down the lights get some candles. Spray surrounding area with linen spray or perfume.
4.) Hygenie
Remember your mouth is dirtier than a toilet...your penis can be pretty close to a toliet as well. Brush your teeth. The menthol in toothpaste creates a lovely cooling effect. (Warning dont apply toothpaste directly to penis. Its too sensitive for that!) The penis should be clean and healthy looking. Dont forget to clean your balls.
5.) Dress to Impress
Dress the part! Some sexy lingerie is the best confidence boost! Wear a tie your partner can grab on to. Style your hair so that your partner can run their fingers through it or they can hold on to it.
I also did damage my throat really bad in college. I rushed and ignored the pain. My tonsils got infected from it and now its so easily irritated I ruined the experience for myself. DO NOT USE NUMBING PRODUCTS. again. Pain tells you that youre doing it wrong.
The art of practicing fellatio actually involves very little Throat stuffing. The majority of a blowjob involves teasing, licking, and stroking it with your hands.
Use lube it isnt cheating, its enhancing the experience. Spit tastes gross. I recommend Wickeds Flavored lube line (salted carmel!) The Wicked line features the natural biostatic of olive leaf extract. It doesnt cure or prevent anything, but it encases any bacteria or fungus you might have floating around, making it less likely to spread to your partner.
Keep in mind that youre sticking a foreign object in your mouth. If its covered in good lube you wont be gagging on it because it will simulate food better if it tastes like it.
The actual act
Start slow,mwhat's the rush? Run your fingers up and down his penis. This penis is the only thing in the world that matters right now. Is he fully awake yet? Why dont you try giving him a nice kiss on the head? Let him in to feel the warmth of your mouth. Then when he's just getting used to the sensation pull away and get that lube handy. Usually its room temperature, so if you drizzle it across him he will feel the cool tease.
For fun you can also try putting a bunch of lube in your mouth and then stick him back in there for a nice sloppy effect.
Focus on head stimiulation if you have a female paartner preforming the act, she obviously does not have a penis so dont be afraid to voice what you like or dont like.
girls the head of the penis is lIke the clit, it likes movement, different sensations, and over all it is the main event. The shaft of the penis is your vagina flipped inside out. your vagina likes feeling full, so the shaft likes feeling pressure.
If youd like to make your mouth vibrate for him, take any vibrator, keep it on the outside of your mouth, place it on your cheek or chin. Please stay away from those disposable tongue vibrators, if you choke on or swallow it, not only will it ruin your night, but if you're not helped right away, its fatal.
If you do want to attempt to deepthroat, you need to relax your throat muscles. The easiest position is to lay across a mattress or couch, COMFORTABLY, with your head hanging slightly off. This position should be able to straighten your mouth and throat. RELAX. If you have to, use this new position to see his balls from another perspective. Apply more lube, the more the better, start slow.
Establish that if you start smacking his thigh he needs to pull out of your mouth.
Please note that deepthroating isnt that pleasurable for most people. Deepthroating is just hype that pornstars create to establish credibility. Most gentlemen complain about a sore penis from being bent weirdly in a hard throat. The givers of the act obviously complain about a sore throat.
Ejaculation is the end goal, there are no rules about how long you can use your hands, if you just use your tongue, and how far you have to stick it in your mouth. If you accomplish your end goal, who's complaining?
Disposing of the semen is something to talk about. Willl you swallow, will you ask him to remove himself and ejaculate in a napkin? Do you want it on your face or chest so you can play with it a bit? Maybe you would like to try swallowing it. If so they do make secretion sweeteners you can take beforehand. Diet also effects the outcome of the product. Fruits naturally sweeten cum while acidic things, like soda, will sour it. This should all be discussed beforehand so duiring the big moment a panicked last minute announcement will not take away from the finale, or worse yet, stop short.
Keep in mind as with any sex act, if it feels good for everyone involved, no matter what it is..you're doing it right.
